If Women are more religious than men, why are men suppose to be the head?

It was appointed apparently to men that they are to be the head of the house according to God, but there are hundreds of churches that state that were it not for their female members, they would not survive, they are just more involved. No offense to men that are actually involved with their church, but men many times don't seem to want to be bothered by their religious counterpart. I'm also in a relationship were my man is more pive than I, and if we were to get married, I would have to submit? I don't know if either would be comfortable with that. Its unfathomable and the only real issue I have with the bible (well, there are others, but lets stick with this). Another reason this irks me is that I have many good female role models in my life, but pretty much all my male kin were either into drugs and alchohol or womanizers and my father was never really around. Maybe this bothers me because in the back of my mind I don't see men as dependable, at least the ones I've come across.